10 Better Things to Say at Your Christmas (or other) Gathering

Pick one or two of these, and try them out when family or friends show up for your celebration:


Instead of: “Did you get everything you wanted?”

Better: “Did you give everything you wanted?”


Instead of: “I worked really hard to get ready for you.”

Better: “I’m so glad you’re here.”


Snowman popsInstead of: “Time for dinner.”

Better: “Time to hang out with my favorite people.”


Instead of: “Let’s say grace.”

Better: “What a gift – to have all of you here.  I’m grateful – let me express that.”


Instead of: “Turn off that TV.  This is family time.”

Better: “They’re enjoying watching the game.  How about you and me go for a walk?”


Instead of: (Any type of complaint)



Instead of: “What a mess! I’ll be cleaning forever.”

Better: “The best part of a mess?  It means there was love in the house today.”


Instead of: “I have to cook for so many people.”

Better: “I get to cook for so many people.”


Instead of: “Christmas is so commercial.”

Better: “Yeah, Christmas is commercial – but it’s an excuse for us to get together.”


Instead of: “I love you.”

Better: “I love you.  Always have.  Always will.  Don’t forget.”


Words are powerful.  Choose them wisely.  Choose them intentionally. 

Try a couple out – and tell us how it goes! (Comment)



Senior Consultant at FranklinCovey; Speaker, Author of 5 books – including “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys,” “I Wish He Had Come With Instructions,” and “Dealing With the Elephant in the Room.” (See Book page)

  • Ximena Meléndez

    Merry Christmas!! My words for today are: “Thanks God for your son, the best Gift too wonderful for words”.

    • Thanks, Ximena – Great words for the holidays!