About

I know it seems strange to have a blog with little information about the author — or anything else for that matter.

Crazy People cover

I’ve been using this as a blog site for the past couple of years, and am just now (September 2014) in the process of turning it into a “normal” website.  So stay tuned . . . it should change soon.

In the meantime, you can email me anytime at mike@mikebechtle.com .

Here’s the bullet-point overview until that happens:

  • Author of three books, including the new “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys” (Revell, 2012)
  • Senior consultant for FranklinCovey Co. (taught close to 3000 seminars) since 1988.
  • Written numerous articles and curriculum (See latest article in the Nov-Dec 2012 issue of Writer’s Digest Magazine – “How to Overcome Writer’s Block Without Willpower”)
  • Former university professor (Biola University)
  • Master’s degree from Biola University, Doctorate from Arizona State
  • Spouse, dad, grandpa
  • Living in Southern California
  • Available for speaking engagements

Crazy People coverHere’s the Amazon link for “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys”http://www.amazon.com/People-Cant-Drive-Crazy-Dont/dp/080072111X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1352566373&sr=8-1&keywords=people+can%27t+drive+you+crazy+if+you+don%27t+give+them+the+keys 

Thanks!

Mike Bechtle

 

  • javed mohammed

    Hi Mike,
    I started reading your book last night, and just finished it this morning, and all I can say is “wow.” Thank you for putting into words so many thoughts I have had, worried, or pondered about. As with anything it will take time to put it into play. Loved the analogies of relationships being like rivers, charting there own course.
    javed, SF bay area, CA

  • julie

    I passed your book in a window of a Texas hotel book store window…I stopped…walked back…and read the title again. Went inside and purchased. You are a new author for me…and I’ve read a lot of books!
    Bravo Dr. Bechtle. Bravo. Your deserve a lifetime achievement award for writing a book with this content–wisdom–and practical advise to make changes in ones life.
    Well done. Thank you.
    Julie in Cincinnati

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      Well, Julie – You can’t imagine how encouraging your note was! Actually, you probably can, which is why you wrote it. You’ve recognized that words of affirmation don’t do anything if they’re kept inside our heads, and don’t leak out to the person who needs them. You took the time to reach out, and it was refreshing. Thanks so much!

  • Herschel Grimes

    Hello Mike, blessings upon you! I just finished reading, “…People…Crazy…Keys…” book and I must say it was very informative, inspiring and practical, I’ll be reading it again for deeper perspective. You’ve got me thinking about a lot of things in my interpersonal relationships and how I can improve them.

    I’m interested to know what’s your “Vision” for expanding the subject matter of your book because I can sense…you only touched the surface (the tip of the iceberg) concerning this subject matter…I equate your book and it’s implementation as receiving a “White-Belt” (Martial Arts reference) in a “Bible based”…psychological self defense class.

    Personally, as a student of “Marketing” and “Small Business”, Your book is “prime” and “perfect” for expansion in many different directions, platforms and “content expansions”…I’m just saying…

    Thank you very much for sharing your “Gift” from the Lord and allowing your ministry to help “perfect” the people of God and everyone else who has an ear to hear…

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      Thanks, Herschel – I appreciate hearing your thoughts about the book, and how it fits in your own situation!

      Yep, I’ve become aware of potential for the book. If it really is valuable for people, there’s good reason for expanding its reach. I’ve taken the initial steps in that direction, getting some help from people who understand such things. I’m in the middle of writing two follow-up books, so that’s my #1 priority at the moment (the first is due at the publisher September 1).

      But establishing a direction is a priority right behind that . . . concurrent, actually.

      Thanks for the encouragement!
      Mike

  • Hope at the Center

    When I started my blog and set up my page, I said to myself “It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be done.” Thanks for using that sentiment. I’m learning to at least do something is rewarding in and of itself. When you get to a certain age it just matters greatly that you are still in the game… That was a big lesson for me! #30Days

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      Well-stated – thanks! Looking forward to the 30-day journey!

  • Lynne

    Thank you, thank you for “Evangelism for the rest of us”! I learned so much about my own personality and that it’s okay to be me – I was created this way for a purpose – God’s purpose – I’m not defective or lacking. How freeing! I thank God for you, the author to whom God gave the gift of writing and articulating these lessons for the rest of us. Blessings to you.

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      You’re so welcome – thanks for letting me know. It’s encouraging!

  • Sharon

    I just finished your book Mike about People can’t drive you crazy if you don’t give them the keys. It was terrific. The book has given me new methods of copying with some very difficult people in my life. I plan on keeping your book close by when I need a friendly reminder on how to deal with a my interesting people in my life. Thanks for taking the time to write the book. Great job
    Thanks,
    Sharon

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      Thanks, Sharon – That’s so encouraging! I appreciate you letting me know the value it has for you – refreshing!

  • DB

    I just brought the book “People can’t drive you crazy if you don’t give them the keys” It is so true what you write. I have gone back and brought more for my family and friends. Thank you for wrting the book!

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      That’s awesome — thanks a bunch for sharing!

  • Cm

    Reading your great book now. Love the great reminder of how I ultimately can only control me, and not the crazy person. I was hoping you could break down this sent I have attach even more with exactly what you did regarding the coworker your had a tough time with. Many prayers have been lifted up regarding this situation and yet I know I have to take some action as well. I have attached the page from your book I thought you could break down even more with specifics of healthy ways to handle. Specific boundaries and reactions would be helpful. Thank you so much. What a great book to give me actions and take back the control/power that I’ve been giving to someone else.

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      Sorry for the delay – been traveling. Will respond to your email soon . . . thanks!

  • Kathryn

    Just finished your book …. Excellent! Have a crazy in my life…a physically abusive brother in law…. My boundaries with him, unfortunately, have distanced me with a niece and nephew, their choice… Not sure how to proceed to reconnect with them without having to let down my boundaries concerning their father. My sister is safe and is working on re claiming herself. In the meantime we, my parents and cousins, are not able or don’t know where to start in reconnecting with our niece and nephew. They both are in their 20’s and are experiencing their own crazy now.

    Any advice?

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      Thanks for the note. Boy, that’s a tough one. Unfortunately, every action, good or bad has consequences. Your bro-in-law’s actions have impacted the people in his life — and unfortunately, one of the casualties has been the family relationships with his kids. You’re right – at that age, they are experiencing life in some new ways. Your estrangement from them comes as a natural consequence of his actions.

      2 things:

      1. I’d find creative ways to simply stay in their lives, no matter how they respond. Little notes, invitations to coffee, just simple connections that say you care. Assume they won’t respond (they probably won’t, but you won’t get unrealistic expectations up). But they might, and they at least know you care about them. That’ll stick in the back of their minds, and might bloom someday.

      2. Have you ever heard the New Life Live radio program? It’s a daily program that is entirely built around people calling in with their questions. Honestly, I don’t know any better place to get great help with your type of issues. I’d look them up at http://www.newlife.com, find out when the show is being taped, and call in with that question. Listen to a few past broadcasts to get a sense for their style, so you can decide who you want to talk to (they usually have 2-3 of their team on the air every day — Steve Arterburn, Henry Cloud, John Townsend, Milan Yerkovich, Sheri Denham, David Stoop and Jill Hubbard. I’d find a day when Sheri Denham is on and call in. Tell them the background, tell them you read the book and see what help they can give you. I think they’ll be able to give you some really creative solutions (especially Sheri).

      There are never guarantees, but there is always hope – let me know sometime in the future how things are going!

  • Lois Friedman

    I’m in the midst of reading and absorbing your “Crazy People” and I can’t begin to tell you how it’s changing me and my life. I’m a young 73 yr old woman who is realizing from reading your book, that I am the Crazy person in my life, not others. I’m not Christian and I’m not young (only in mind) but I can’t praise you and your writing enough. Keep ‘em coming.

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      That’s so encouraging! Thanks for your kind words – and for the reminder that age doesn’t determine our choices!

  • Barbara

    I just finished reading your “Crazy people” book. I did write a post here, but lost it I think when I realized after that I needed to sign in to post. Anyway, I plan to read your book again. I took my time reading it but need to read again to let it sink in. What would your advice be for having a spouse that does not want to connect with others? How do I not let his behavior hold me back from connecting with others? Sometimes I feel guilty leaving him and making a life for myself. We live far from family so I need healthy connections. He has no interest in church, connecting with other couples etc. He is content with sitting in front of the TV 24/7 when he is home.

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      Sorry for the delay, Barbara – Between some travel and some computer issues, I’ve gotten a little behind on these comments!

      Thanks for taking the time to connect. Yes, your issue with your husband can be a tough one. I don’t think there’s an easy answer, but here are a couple of thoughts:

      – He could have some social issues, but could just be an introvert. That doesn’t mean shy, but it describes where he gets his energy. Like a rechargeable battery, introverts recharge when they’re alone, and expend energy when they’re in a group. They might be uncomfortable in a lot of conversations, because they do a lot of listening, and then think it through later. So they don’t always know how to respond until the conversation is over.

      — You have to make choices about yourself and your own life. You can’t force him to change – that’s his job. You can influence him, but you need to learn to function both with him and on your own.

      Talk to him (without accusing) about why he’s uncomfortable around others. Don’t defend yourself or try to suggest that he do anything differently at that point – just listen for the sole purpose of understanding. Tell him you really want to look through his eyes and understand him. The more you listen, the more he’ll feel understood instead of critiqued.

      I don’t know anything about your situation, so these ideas might be totally inappropriate. They’re just thoughts. I’m thinking it would be valuable for you to spend some time with a professional counselor to get some tools for understanding what’s happening – first by yourself, and then with him if he’s willing.

      Practice listening – deeply. Listen to his heart more than his words.

      If you think he’s an introvert (which isn’t a character flaw), get a copy of the book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.” It’ll help you get a clearer picture of how he’s wired.

      It’s a journey worth taking . . . !

  • Robin Lindzer

    Hi Mike,

    Great article you wrote for “Writer’s Digest” on writer’s block. You have a lot of terrific ideas that I will be implementing, along with software suggestions that I will be installing.

    Thanks much,

    Robin Lindzer

    • http://mikebechtle.com/ Mike Bechtle

      Thanks, Robin — I didn’t realize it had actually come out yet – I appreciate the heads-up!

  • Cindy L

    Hi, Mike,
    Great start! I’m back in Sweden, helping start out a new ministry, called Mary & Martha’s (place… ministry.) We’re combining the doing & being parts of hospitality, member care & staff training in a little bit different way, hopefully! Nothing new under the sun, but will be a department, instead of doing things as individuals. Mom didn’t come back with me this time – she’s 85, & hung up her boots in Mass. Looking forward to seeing more of what you are doing here! Blessings!